Over twenty years ago, I went to live in Malawi. I ended up there because I formed a strong friendship with a Malawian called Stuart Ligomeka during my postgraduate studies. We were about the same age, but he was already a District Commissioner and had secured a scholarship to study in the UK. He had married his university sweetheart, Doreen and they had already had two kids. She had stayed behind in Malawi during his studies, while Stuart also worked three jobs as well as doing his masters to save as much money as possible.